What to wear to your engagement session

Believe it or not, you have a lot of control over how your session looks and feels. Choosing what to wear is one of the biggest decisions for the shoot, and it’s also the one that stresses people out the most. I’ve seen plenty of couples struggle over closet choices the week before their session.

My hope is that a little education will make it easier. Once you know the style and mood you want for your photos, picking outfits gets much simpler. So let’s start by busting some of the most common outfit myths I hear.

Myth #1: Avoid neutrals, they wash you out

Whoever started this one couldn’t have been further from the truth! Yes, there are a few colors that don’t flatter certain skin tones, but neutrals are some of the most photogenic colors for portraits. Cream, tan, soft gray, and warm beige look timeless, they let your faces and expressions take center stage, and they pair beautifully with nearly any location.

If you’re worried about looking flat, add texture with lace, knits, or flowing fabrics. Layers and accessories add depth, too.

Myth #2: Always wear black to look thin

Black can be slimming, but it also reads very heavy in portraits. There’s nothing wrong with wearing it, and it can look striking for the right session. But if you’re only choosing black to look thinner while secretly hoping for light, airy photos, it may not be the best fit.

Think about the final look you want. If it’s bright and dreamy, softer tones will get you there. If it’s moody and dramatic, black might be perfect. Pick the one that matches your vision. Fit matters more than color. Clothes that fit well and make you feel confident will always photograph better.

Myth #3: You two need to match

If you two regularly show up in matching outfits, then by all means, match for your session! It’s your style, so go for it. But if that’s not you, I recommend coordinating instead.

Matching and coordinating are different things. Coordinating means choosing colors and styles that look good together without being too close to the same. For example, she wears a dusty rose dress while he wears a navy button-up with tan pants. They complement each other without looking like a uniform.

A simple trick: pick one outfit first, then build the second around its colors and tones. Tell your photographer what you’re thinking, and they’ll be happy to give feedback before the shoot.

Myth #4: Your location determines style more than your outfit

False! Your outfit has far more impact on the style of your images than the location does. The location is just the backdrop, and the two of you are always the main focus. A casual outfit in a gorgeous garden still feels casual, and an elegant gown on a simple street still feels elegant.

That said, it helps to choose outfits that suit your setting. Flowy dresses are great for open fields and beaches, while structured pieces and bolder looks pop against a city backdrop. Think of the location and your outfit as partners.

Myth #5: You have to buy something new

Nope! If you already own an outfit you love, one that fits well, makes you feel amazing, and matches the style you want for your session, wear it. Feeling like yourself is what shows up in photos. Try the outfit on before the shoot, sit and move around in it, and make sure it’s comfortable.

If you do want something new, that’s great too! Just don’t feel pressured to spend extra money to have beautiful photos.